How Am I Still Single?

When you know, will you really know??

January 30, 2010

So, watching He’s just not into you tonight and really paying attention to the Gigi character who is perpetually searching for love.  It reminded me of a girl I used to know who each first date she had, she declared that he was the ONE!

Every time she went out with a new guy, which was a lot, she would come into work and talk about how he thought she was the funniest girl (she wasn’t, she was fucking crazy) and he just GOT her.  Then, Monday would come, and he wouldn’t call and she would wonder why.  I could have told her she was fucking crazy and the guy figured it out, but that would have been mean.  (or would it have been???)

Back to the movie, Gigi is looking for her plus one, but is so eager to find him, that she is scaring the heck outta everyone!  It makes me wonder, if we seem aloof, are we better off, or does it really matter in the game of love.  Will we both know when it’s right?  Will we be on the same wavelength?  What if one is into the other person, but the other isn’t?  WTF man, why is love the hardest thing to find of all?

I’ve been good at most things that I’ve done, my career, kids (teenagers are a challenge I will admit) but the biggest challenge of all is finding long lasting, true love.  I don’t know if my love radar is just off (kinda like mapquest trying to find a destination, hate them) or I’m just really not in a place to find it.

I had a few clients in this week and we were talking about if you have been alone so long, does it make it hard to be with someone?  I do know that if I was to live with or marry a guy, I couldn’t do it in the house I’m in now, because there isn’t enough closet space.  I’ve been divorced 10 years now, and it’s hard to think of me living with someone.

Kinda sad actually, maybe that’s why I do long distance loves, because it keeps them at arms length, (or airports length).  Lets say I meet the one that I get and gets me, are we both going to know it?  At the same time??

My friend Shelley met the love of her life at a baseball game, while she was with her ex husband.  They knew within a few weeks that they were meant for each other and have been happily married for over 3 years.  I think when we meet our plus one, our hearts need to speak to each other and we need to listen to what they say.  I still believe in love and everlasting love, I just need to open mine up to the possibility of love.

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