How Am I Still Single?

Dating the family…

July 10, 2009

When you are dating someone, how much does family involvement count?  Being a single mom, I’m always conscious of dating a guy with kids, as I have them too.  I’ve never involved my kids until I thought there was the potential for a relationship.  In fact, when women introduce their young kids to their new “uncle”, I’ve always thought it was trashy.  Now that my kids are older, it’s not as important because they understand the differences in dating and relationships.  Still, when people are newly divorced, I think kids should stay out of the way until it’s been established that there is a relationship formed.  Now, what about the rest of the family, I’m talking about your dates parents and siblings. 

I’ve been dating a man who has a nightmare for a mom and a few sisters I can’t stand.   I’m a very friendly girl and I always like to put my best foot forward when it comes to family.  When we met though, his family (with the exception of one sister who is a dear friend of mine) basically ignored me from the get go. 

He says that’s a great thing, because they normally dog people out, but I’m not used to that!  His mom is just a beatch and barely acknowledges my existence.  Do we have to date the family too??  What if the family is just plain mean??  If the guy is great and the family sucks, is it impending doom??  Will he eventually choose them or the girl?  What is with the family anyways??  Why do I keep putting 2 question marks at the end of the sentences??  hahahahahahha! 

How much does the family come into play in a relationship?  Some of my friends say give it up now, the family will end up on top.  Some say ignore them, and just keep plugging away.  I don’t understand the concept of being nasty.  Is it a control thing?  Do they not like the thought of another women stepping into the picture?  Why wouldn’t they want their son happy?  I think some people are really stupid, or maybe just ignorant. 

I have a lot of patience, but I swear, there isn’t enough wine available to drown out their attitudes and God knows, I’ve tried!  All that happens is I get a hangover.  What are the rules to dating when there is a family that isn’t supportive or even decent?  Are there rules, or do you just have to put up with them and ignore them?  Heck, I don’t know the answer to that one, does anyone??

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